As a result of Divorce and Child Support Payments, Many Men will be forced to sleep in their cars.
How to Live in Your Car
A legal separation of marriage is defined as the agreement obtained by a court in deciding how to split the marriage, but not grant a divorce. The couple usually agrees to live separately, but that is not always required. It's best to meet with an attorney to fully understand what needs to be done and to decide if separating is the appropriate action.
Significance
Like a divorce, a legal separation divides property obtained during the marriage. It also establishes the rights of each spouse and may involve the responsibility of one spouse providing financial support to the other during the separation.
Considerations
Some states require a couple separate for a specific amount of time before a court will consider granting a divorce. If divorce is the goal, both people must live on their own during the separation period.
Misconceptions
A legal separation is not a divorce and does not mean a divorce must follow. A legal separation does not end the marriage. It only specifies the obligations of each spouse in light of their wishes to try living separately. The couple may even decide to live in the same residence while they are separated.
Potential
If there is domestic abuse, seek advice from an attorney immediately. The court needs to be made aware of any such circumstances involving the marriage.
Warning
If you eventually decide to divorce, the arrangements made in the separation may also be applied during divorce proceedings. When filing for a legal separation, make sure you understand everything before any documents are signed.
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Living in a car isn't something that anyone would recommend. However, when you get laid off, your emergency fund runs out, your home is foreclosed (or you get an eviction notice) and there's nobody to help, living in your car might be the only choice, especially if you don't feel safe at a local shelter. Unfortunately, in many places, sleeping in your car is not only frowned upon, but also illegal. Here's how to get by until something better comes along.
Steps
- Find a safe and inconspicuous place to park. First, check to see if there are any organizations in your area (or a nearby area) that designates parking lots specifically for people in situations like yours; it's not only legal, but the organization might screen the people who use the lot, or even designate a women-only lot.[1] If there are no such lots available, and you live in a city, look for streets with no sidewalks, no overlooking windows, and adjacent to woods; the area should be sparse enough to avoid nosy onlookers but populated enough that the car does not stand out.[2] Parking lots of big-box retailers (especially those that are open 24 hours and have restrooms, such as Wal-mart) might work.
- Camp sites are another option, although they usually have time limits.
- If there's no restroom, having a creek nearby helps for rinsing purposes. Know how to safely defecate outdoors and make a poop tube.
- Once you find a spot, try to arrive late at night, and leave before 7am. This will draw as little attention as possible to yourself.
- If you can establish rapport with the manager of a retail store or restaurant, they may not give you problems about staying overnight, especially if they see your presence as a form of overnight security.[3]
- A free hospital parking lot is another option. If approached by a guard, you can say that you're waiting to visit a sick relative.[4]
- Camp sites are another option, although they usually have time limits.
- Find a place to shower. The most logical place is a gym. This will help you keep your sanity and give you a purpose to your morning. Don't settle for the first gym you find. If you look around, you may find nearly deserted gyms in which you can shower and fully clean yourself without embarrassment.
- The next best choice is to check into a cheap motel or hostel once or twice a week and clean up thoroughly there (if you can afford it).
- At a truck stop, you can ask around for a shower coupon, if you feel safe allowing people to know that you're without a place to stay.
- Some toll roads, especially state turnpikes, have large rest areas with free showers for truckers. Since these are usually open 24 hours, these plazas are also good places to sleep.
- The next best choice is to check into a cheap motel or hostel once or twice a week and clean up thoroughly there (if you can afford it).
- Be discreet. Keeping your situation under wraps minimizes the embarrassment and helps avoid becoming a target for police officers and criminals alike.
- Rotate among several parking locations to avoid getting noticed.
- When you move around in the parked car, move slowly to avoid rocking the car.
- Consider using a car cover. Not only will it maintain privacy (especially since condensation on the windows will otherwise make it obvious that you're in there) but it will also keep the car warmer during winter. This is not a viable option, however, when it's hot outside.
- When it's sunny in the daytime, use a sunshade for the windshield.
- Rotate among several parking locations to avoid getting noticed.
- Get the things you'll need. The basic essentials for living in a car are a blanket, a pillow, and a mattress or some other padding. Due to the angles involved in the seating setup, you may develop dull back pain from the cramped quarters. Should this happen, be sure to have pain medication on hand. Once you have your sleeping gear, you'll want a blanket to place over the back seat, and draped over the two front seats. This will block light and people's views.
- Find alternate ways of generating electricity. A cigarette lighter converter is one option. These are useful for powering low consuming devices (100 watts), but if you plan on using your vehicle for cooking, then you'll need to draw power more directly from your battery or you'll blow the fuse. You will also need a much more expensive converter, and need to idle the vehicle while drawing this power. An alternative is to use gas, but do not use this inside the vehicle for safety reasons.
- Have a place to store items that is portable. Get bags you can fill with your soaps, clothes, cell phone, etc. Keeping things in order will save you a lot of hassle. A vehicle may seem like a small space, but losing things can be extremely easy. Also, keeping things neat inside the car will draw less attention from people passing by who happen to look in the windows. Hiding your bedding might be a good idea (consider the trunk). There's not a lot of extra room in a vehicle for a week's worth of clothes, so consider finding a hiding place to keep them. The laundromat is great, but don't waste a load by throwing in too much, or not diluting the soap first. When you're not in the car, leave windows cracked and dryer sheets scattered about to keep the interior smelling decent. Wash your sheets once a month, or else you risk smelling like a homeless person, which will blow your cover and get you treated like a homeless person.
- Evaluate your food options. They will be limited by the lack of refrigeration. Fast food is expensive when you're living off of it. With old fashioned (large flake) rolled oats, powdered milk, bottled water, plastic cups, and chocolate protein powder, you can ensure that you always have a nutritious snack to fall back on.[5]
- Before you start living in your car, use your permanent address to:
- Rent a P.O. Box.
- Sign up for a gym membership.
- Renew any paperwork that will require an address to process soon.
- Put valuables in a safe deposit box at a bank.
If you have friends or family who can't (or refuse to) help you with your living situation (or you refuse to ask them for help) think about at least asking them if you can use their address. - Rent a P.O. Box.
- Stay positive. Keep reminding yourself that the situation is only temporary. Spend each day hitting the pavement and looking for jobs. Use the local library and bookstore not only to search for jobs, but also to become more knowledgeable in ways that will help you get through this and find a job. Most importantly, talk to people like social workers and religious organization workers who will sympathize and understand, and try to help.
Tips
- If you wear contact lenses you will need a disinfectant for your hands. Better yet, wear glasses.
- Get an automobile association membership. This will help you if you drain your battery, or break down.
- Make sure you have vehicle documentation and insurance. Without it, your problems will increase.
- Personal safety should always be your number one priority. You may want to learn your state's gun laws and purchase a handgun or other firearm if you do not already own one. Criminals seek out people who appear vulnerable, or travel alone. Sometimes, the sound of a cocked gun will be sufficient enough to deter a potential mugger.
- If you are spending the night in your car and you have been drinking alcohol, do not have the keys in the ignition, If it is winter and you need to run the car for heat, move over to the passenger or back seat.
Warnings
- Be careful who you tell about your living in a car. If they're not likely to provide assistance, then don't bother, because you might end up endangering yourself.
- The garbage truck or other neighborhood noises can wake you up. Consider earplugs.
- Don't drink alcohol. Don't even bring any alcohol into your car. If cops find you with alcohol in your blood or in your car, you could get in serious trouble, even if you're not driving at the time.
Things You'll Need
- Blankets and pillows
- Car with insurance and license
- Water
- Gas
- Food
- Gym membership
- Automobile association membership (if your car insurance doesn't include Roadside Assistance)
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Sources and Citations
- ↑ http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/wayoflife/05/19/homeless.mom/index.html
- ↑ http://www.nytimes.com/2006/04/02/us/02cars.html
- ↑ http://www.pitch.com/2008-09-04/news/joco-s-hobos-when-a-working-man-doesn-t-have-a-home-in-johnson-county-a-wal-mart-parking-lot-is-the-next-best-thing/2
- ↑ http://www.nytimes.com/2006/04/02/us/02cars.html
- ↑ live-frugal.blogspot.com/2008/02/stealth-living.html
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